Misfire, boy can I relate. They say that every person has a role to play in the family structure.
Sounds like you and I shared the role of fixer.
Unfortunately, that early conditioning programmed us to keep doing it into adult life, w/our own families, our friends, our co-workers.

I'm trying, like you, to tell myself, "it is what it is" and stop trying to fix things. I will listen, but I won't try to offer opinions about fixing other people's problems. Most times they don't want to hear what you have to say anyway, they just want someone to listen. But, you don't have to sit still and listen to the problems of the universe forever. You are entitled to have some fun and surround yourself with positive people. Fill your life with laughter when you can.

Oh no! am I trying to fix you? damn, and I've been so careful lately....guess old habits die hard.

God bless!