One of the worst things aobut waiting is just what you said, our children. I started to have flashbacks hitting me in the face every other munite when my daughter started puberty. i'm sure that was the trigger to my flashbacks. I wish I could have delt with this earlier. I feel so much better after going to a therapist. And now I don't care who knows. I want the world to know this happened. I am a survivor. I was a victim. Now THEY ARE THE A PERPS--GUILTY! Not Me!