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Originally posted by smilinize:
I have known those types of people and sometimes it seems as if they are striking out from the pain of loneliness. They seem to be forcing everyone away from them, and yet they also seem desperately lonely. Loneliness can be so painful as to lead to desperation and desperate people cannot be trusted.

Still, most times I must refuse to allow myself to be abused for the loneliness they have inflicted upon themselves. Sometimes they come to their senses. Sometimes not.
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I can relate to this to some extent. Ten years ago, when my baby almost died, the majority of people who I believed were friends vanished out of my life. I tried to maintain contact with them but they either ignored me completely or came up with excuses as to why they couldn't visit (even after my son came out of hospital). I said that if transport was a problem, I'd happily come to them if it's easier but they would have to give me the nod first because I didn't feel it was right to turn up on their doorstep uninvited. Their response to that was silence.

It was very hard to come to terms with the fact that these people vanished en mass at such a time in my life when I needed friendly support and yes, I believe at that time, my lonliness did show and, what you said, drove them away because not all of them ignored me first, they just didn't accept my invitations but when I suggested going to them instead, they blanked me.

It's just so hard to handle mass rejection and it's not easy when individuals do it to me now. I's not something I've learned how to overcome and I know I should. I guess I'm directionless in that respect.