Thanks Ladies, you all voiced the thoughts and feelings I have been having all along. I love that my daughter needs me and wants to be near me but she is young and oh so strong, I also know that we have many many years to spend together. Our moms on the other hand need us in so many ways, unlike my daughter they are no longer strong enough to get by without our help, and we do not know how much more time we will have to spend with them. I thought life was supposed to get easier after the kids grew up and had families of their own but I feel like life is more complicated now than it ever was. To be honest I sometimes feel resentful over the demands and responsibilities and wonder if a time will ever come to finally think about my desires and needs before I'm too old to even care. I apologize about ending this with a rant but it does feel good to finally get it out.