Part of the problem is the expectation girls have about the white dress wedding and fairy tale life..many view a story book "happy ever after"life.The books read by and to children..This can be culturally inbuilt.Gender driven .The thought that a man will provide a home and cope with providing for another and maybe children.The economy falls the home is insecure...
Even TV adverts and magazine adverts from the past bear witness to a society where its 2point1 children.
Reality is a couple have to respect each other and that comes from first respecting themselves...Young people mature physically before they do emotionally and unless they respect each other life can be hard.
so educating our young about the commitment to another whether within or outwith marriage is important..This can be done in many ways...