Perhaps the not showing up was a onetime slip and she is, in fact, the counselor for you. I must admit it would really put me off of her. Trust is so important in the counselor/client relationship and that would have really cut my ability to trust her, at least for awhile. Whatever develops just keep in mind it is your needs that are most important and, if it isn't right, don't be shy about shopping around for the right person, It is too important, and expensive, a thing to just settle. Counselors helped save my life during a rough time, I hope you find the same support that I was able to find.