Hi, Judy. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. In my former career as a nurse, I saw many situations like the one you describe. It's never easy when a parent, or other loved one, dies. Take care of yourself and do whatever you need to do to fully heal. I understand about being angry with yourself, but it doesn't do any good to play the 'what-if' game.

I hope you find the complete peace you need. I'm not sure we ever get over a death; but I think the pain does recede over time. We all grieve at a different rate; one person gets over something more quickly than someone else does. Since we are all different and unique, so is our grieving.
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