Often, office politics aren't revealed to new hires for weeks, even months. By the time they realize how toxic the workplace is, it's too late to bow out gracefully.

You've heard the old saying: "Don't judge another person until you have walked a mile in their shoes."

Well, lets flip that.

After the treatment I received from the women (they most certainly were not ladies) who bullied me, someone recently told me:

"One of the things that helped was to remind myself how much worse I thought it would be to wake up and find myself in the body and mind of one of those bullies. It made me feel more hopeful to be in my own skin. I really think that I'd rather be me in the situation and wouldn't trade places with a bully for anything! And underneath all the bluster and behaviour, I think the bullies would rather they were someone else too. They'd like to be someone like you."

I can't stomach the thought of being the kind of person who could throw others under a bus.