We all have a right to boundaries.....we need physical and emotional boundaries and no one has a right to violate them. Life is all about choices (as you said); if someone CHOOSES to cheat; it is their responsibility.

I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse, so Understand when you say you are "reeling:

Be kind to yourself. I don't know where people come up with these thoughts, that you should have sex or anything else you don't feel like doing.

Hugs, Alice