Yonah, luckily my husband of 37 years only had to live through 4 years of the hell I was putting him and all the family through. I can only imagine how difficult living thru 25 years of it must have been for you. Thankfully I never was mean enough to try to put the blame on him, I was very, very aware of who deserved all the blame, no one but me. It sounds like you have been through a lot and somehow came out at the other end in good shape. Congratulations, you must be a strong and resourceful woman.