Most definitely it takes two to make a marriage work. Mine finally fell apart because of addictions and his not being willing to get help. It wasn't until I started going to Al-Anon that I was able to separate myself from his behavior and make changes for me; not for the marriage, which at that point was dead anyway. He was also unfaithful all throughout the marriage of 25 years or so. And, like you, I had no interest in men or in marrying again. But life has a funny way of changing one's mind, so never say never! I have spent the last 15 years with a wonderful man, and I wasn't looking when we met.
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