Dear Clarity:

I am sorry you have gone through so much lately.

It takes two persons working together to save a marriage. Marriage is a commitment, a decision we make each and every day. With our behavior we construct or destroy our marriage. From your post I see that your ex made choices that led him down the wrong path. And if he was not interested in getting help to restore the relationship, there was little that could be done, if anything.

It is nearly impossible to save a marriage when only one person is interested in saving it.

Remember you are precious and a woman of worth. There are decisions each of us need to make to keep us safe from the dangers we face. Infidelity is far more dangerous these days than ever before. If you did the best to safe your marriage, please do not let others make you feel guilty.

Live each day thankful for it and go after your dreams. You still have much to offer.

God bless you abundantly!