As you say Dotsie..honoring anothers choice

I believe honoring what others do and what choices they have made is correct..indeed to quote Eric Berne.."I'm OK you're OK.
as with being a housewife...the criteria is personal and cannot be measured.
When a child is loved then they cope with their upbringing well and in time make their own choices.. whether being cared for by their Daddy or professional childcare.