Di..Your husband sounds like a faithful , hardworking guy...next time he makes you a cup of tea, try giving him a big kiss and say"I'm so lucky that you are my guy...I love all of the little things you do to spoil me..." or something to that effect...and when the time for your birthday draws near...try saying..." Dear I know birthdy's aren't exactly your thing because I can be difficult to find a gift for...but I saw a beautiful handbag (for example) that I would love to have...would you like to give me that for my birthday this year? That will take the pressure off and you will get what you want...Most Men just don't think the way we do..sometimes we have to steer them in a certain direction and then praise them for it...it's not fair I know..but that is the way the male brain works..thank goodness for sisters and girlfriends...:)