Yes, very helpful. This person, a relative, lives far from me so "being there" is not something I can do.

I recall when Mom was so ill, I, as an 18 yr old teen, kept a distance. There was no way I knew how to handle it. A first death in a family..and it was Mom. So I'm kinda not really sure WHAT to do.

Eight years ago I had a friend pass away (she was around 43)..left two young children. I sent her a few things and cards etc. It was hard for me to call her. I wonder if cards are enough.

Gosh, this is so hard. cry