I don't know; this is definitely making me uncomfortable. I know this thread started out about domestic violence but now it seems to be about rape and revenge. I understand these feelings but it's not like women don't dish out a great deal of abuse themselves. Child abuse is the one crime where women match men blow for blow. What's our punishment for the women who beat, maim, and kill their own children? What body part shall we cut off? If abuse is always a choice we have no excuses for the things some of us do, either.