No, you can put any picture or none at all. My real name including my maiden name is my Facebook name. Jabber, I don't know the person you mention at all. The thing is you have a choice to completely ignore anyone asking for friend's requests. To add a friend you find the person and it always says "add as a friend." So you have that option.
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