Hi, Bookie. I think you are doing now what needs to be done by listening. We are always vulnerable when it comes to our children. With mine, I never offer advice; I merely listen and maybe ask clarification questions. I think each of us has to make the decision based on what we know and the people involved. I have hurt for my kids when I couldn't help them, but I'm always here for them. It's tough, but talking against her husband could backfire on you if they patch things up later. She will always remember that you were against him and may resent you for it.

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