Cathi, my brother once told me that he thought that his cancer was harder on me than it was on him. He didn't have the energy to worry or think beyond the current moment, while I worried about and took care of everything else. He maintained that except for the day or two after chemo, he wasn't in any pain, just tired, which he didn't consider a hardship. (That probably changed during his bone marrow transplant process). But for the most part, I think he's right. I think the family and caregivers are bear as much, if not more, the hardest brunt of cancer.
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When you don't like a thing, change it.
If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

(Maya Angelou)