Hi Whirlwind,
I've been having similar thoughts about what a relationship will look like now that I've learned the hard lessons that come after married to mental illness, divorce, and learning to be single. Like you, I've come to enjoy my autonomy. I yearn for a relationship too, but wonder if all my hard learned, hard earned lessons will be lost and I'll revert to the person who used to be married. My hope for both of us is that we find the kind of person who is comfortable enough to be together when you're together and happily apart when one or another of you wants individual space. And I think the advice you received about building a solid friendship will make that possible. Meantime, enjoy the newness and the companionship and just try not to lose your way. I wish you the best!
kathryn