Whirlwind -- Just take it very slow and develop a good friendship and really get to know each other. Over time, I think some of your questions will be answered. I think it is essential to know yourself and those things on which you can or cannot compromise. But, sometimes we become too rigid and inflexible and miss wonderful opportunities to really get to know someone. Also, I think you have to assess what it is you might be giving up or compromising on in relation to what you are receiving. In any event, there must be good communication and respect for each other. It is essential that you reveal your true self to him at the very beginning.