The wig idea is a good one, this way you'll know before you do anything drastic. What about trying to lighten it a shade at a time until it is a softetr shade of your existing color, maybe then at a later date have it highlighted and this way the gray can blend in naturally and not looked colored or take as much time and money to keep up...
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