I have done both, given sanctuary to someone in need and also given money to someone in need, actually many someones. That is in the past, as my financial situation changed when my ex drove me into the ground of financial uncertainty. He maxed out my credit cards, wrecked my car, spent like a drunken sailor until I was in debt. It was during this time I realized how cold and selfish others are. There was no one there for me after the divorce, just lots of smug looks of I told you so, which no one did by the way.

Well, I am far from ther generous person I once was and I do what I can for those I care about but it usually doesn't mean giving cash. I do without much myself now and so take things slow and careful. I so wish I had what I once had and could be as generous as I use to be, it is fun for me to make people happy....