Mrs M --

How did it go today ?

Funerals are for saying goodby's and getting the support of others feeling the same way --

Remember this lady in the months to come -- when everyone has gone on with their lives -- say a kind word -- ask her if she needs to talk -- maybe give her something special she can share with her kids -- its in the months to come that the shock will wear off and she will need someone to lean on now and then -- Kathy's right -- she's not the only one this has happened to -- it will just feel that way to her for awhile

Check into support groups in your area and give her the names/address/phone number -- not just the suggestion to find one -- maybe offer to watch the kids that night so she can go and freely express herself without worrying about the kids seeing her cry

And tell her about this forum -- especially the thread just for widows --