It's not a bad thing to show your grief; the feelings are there and if you try to hold them in it will just get worse.

I'm not sure how well you know this woman outside of the co-worker connection; does she have a good support system? Does she need assistance with child care, meals, funeral expenses, transportation?

I always feel better if there's some concrete way I can help. If you wait to be asked, you may not be. Just think of what you would want people to do if you were in their position and then just do it.

Remember that this type of situation happens to thousands of people all over the world every day - people learn to adjust, to grieve, to move on and continue their lives. Offering any support you can will help.

Kathy