I cared for my mom in-home for 3 years to avoid a nursing home. At the end everyone around me was saying put her in a nursing home because I was collapsing emotionally and physically. I wonder what the families situation was of the woman. Could they have just reached a 'can't go on point'? Maybe they didn't have resources to quit a job? Who knows. Or maybe, like me, it is an only child just stetched too far?
Mom was in assisted living for 10 years before I moved her in here. She needed more care than assisted living offered AND her money ran out. There are probably many folks in Nursing Homes that could make it in assisted living but, at least in Georgia, Medicaid or insurance will not cover assisted living at all, but they will pay for nursing home care. I'm a big advocate of making some funding available for assisted living. It would be cheaper and more humane than nursing homes. I don't think the nursing home industry likes the idea.