The cumulative effect of grief made so much sense to me when I read it. I was in my early 20s at the time and hadn't yet attended more than a few funerals -- but it just....made sense, ya know?

Another thing the author acknowledges is how much easier it is to be around other mourners during the most intense time of shock and grief. I was very reluctant to return home after my newphew died. All of us were insane with grief and I just couldn't bear to make small talk with any "normal" people.

My warmes wishes to all of you, whether your grief has subsided to an ache or you still need to curl up in the fetal position. Stay strong. Be good to yourselves.

Warmly,
Sally

P.S. The book is called "How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies" and it's by Therese A. Rando. It was a sanity saver for me.