After reading this all again + the problem with EW's son, I wanted to add something.
Before my son's wedding, stressfull last minute preps at every turn, in addition to moving to their new house etc..He got very harsh with me. Being human I snapped back. Later I called him and we talked. I started he conversation with an apology for loosing my temper & told him I understood his harshness. Then asked him what all was bothering him, ''long talk'' & we came to the agreement, he snapped at me, because I was the safest, most forgiving person for him on this planet. In essence, Being his Mom, I was the one place he could let down and vent without a super ruckus..he was stressed. Our younger adult kids are so stressed, we hate to admit it, but things aren't the same as when we were their ages. granted they need to learn to deal with it & I do have many gripes RE: My kids... But, my son Thanked me for letting him blow off steam and finding a way to do it appropreatley. He was afterall, not going to upset the bride nor have a fuss with his soon to be inlaws, my DH would have only demimished his woes with a Told you so attitude & his brother, boss and co workers wre just not an option for his fussy tears, fears and frustrations. Nope he needed his Mommy. Now, I do reserve the right to be at total odds with this same child at any given time. But this was just an instance of a time where HE had more on his plate than he knew how to deal with.
QB
Probably like EW mentioned her son's behaviour was more directed at others than actually at her, her idea hat the temps/golf and a 2 y/o didn't jive was just a good opportunity for him to unload on someone. Mom was safe and handy. Aren't we always, really?