I've been skulking some - I've been too busy with work to do much on the internet. But your situation really hit home with me Dee. My son and I do get together at holidays and I am thankful for that, but I feel left out of his life and don't feel close to him. I will never say anything to him, because I never want him to feel smothered by guilt. When and if he ever comes around and becomes the man I think he is, I want it to be on his own free will. I'm willing to wait for that.

I realize that my situation is partly my fault. I chose his dad, who is a selfish idiot and never showed me any respect or honor. My son treats me (and his wife) the same way his dad treated me when we were married: Neglected.

It sounds like you have a great husband. You should make each other your world, and enjoy life as much as possible.