I've learned a long time ago, Dee, that when it comes to my step children, I have to shut my mouth and be silent. I am not the mother.......don't know the dynamics that occurred from way before me etc.

I believe the steps will have regrets later on. I see things, too, in my DH's situation. He just seems to be "second fiddle" to the Mom. But he handles it the way he handles it. HIS way. I have NO INPUT but to be there.

It's so difficult, I know, when we want to defend our spouses and keep them from hurt. But, for me at least, since I am not the parent, I cannot fix it.

My heart goes out to you, Dee. Being a caring stepparent does not always pan out.
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