I lost both my husband and mother in the last few years. I just go with the flow and take one day at a time. Some days I cry from morning to night; some days I laugh the entire time. Life is so full of joy AND pain...and I have both. I am joyful and thankful that I had 51 years with my mother, and that I had 30 years with my husband. I am hurt that I had only 51 years with Mom and 30 years with Tim. 'Tis a puzzlement!