Anne, speaking of first party experiences involving alcohol...that's something I tell my kids. You need to experience some of life's ups and downs without alcohol so you know how to cope. You need to socialize without it so you can do the same when you're 40.

I'm sure we all know people who never learned how to be social at parites without a drink in their hands. I think that's so sad. Most of them are either in AA now, bad marriages, or still whooping it up.