Sue, I think if leaving your man hurts you so much; then maybe it is a sign to rethink things over.

If I were to take such a step, then I would only do it if I felt like a huge burden had been lifted off my shoulders. And although I would feel lousy about my marriage not working out, my anticipation about my new life, along with the relief of leaving the pain behind, should outweigh the sadness or guilt feelings.

It doesn’t always have to be divorce. Just a trial separation might be all you need to see things more clearly.