Dee is right, Sue. Not too long ago I was asking myself the same questions. All my complaining and bickering never changed anything. Then after a fight, I just packed an overnight bag and left.
My husband was floored. He didn’t think I had it in me.

We reconciled, and went to counselling. Believe me, our marriage still isn’t perfect, no way. But Hubby is trying, and when I see him try it makes me love him more because I know it isn’t easy for him. I thought I didn’t love him anymore either, but I do. It was there all along, I was just disappointed in how things were developing.

I suggest you take a time out. Show him you mean business. You have children, though, right? Oh dear,…that makes it harder. Is it possible for you to take the kids on a vacation? Just you and the children? Leave him alone for a weekend, so he will get a taste of the alternative life. That might be all you need.

My heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is.