I would like to clarify...I have been aware of arranged marriages...for a long time. After all, traditional Chinese..did arrange their marriages --for centuries.

The story that I told was to simply ..describe a workplace situation where in contemporary North American society, how arranged marriages are ....or AREN'T described much by those who are part of such arrangements and who may find it difficult to talk much about it to others who don't understand the practice.

As I said, my parents' marriage was in a way, nearly arranged. such marriages works best ...when there is benevolent partriarchy and the woman submits..in the end to her husband. which is precisely what my mother did..and yes, my father practiced benevolent patriarchy for awhile...then realized it was abit useless, with well-educated, outspoken childen.

My parents have been asked by several relatives who have immigrated here, to initiate a process of photo exchange and mail overseas..to help relative find a husband, etc.

They did it ....most relunctantly.