Humlan, You TOO have a lot going on! The way a lot of people handle your hair type is to put a leave in conditioner into your hair and then put gel OVER that conditioner and then let it dry naturally and don't comb it! This way your curls are tame and nice. If you comb it you can make it bigger! You CAN comb it with the recipe if you comb it when the gel is DRY, totally dry! It conditions your hair because the gel locks in the conditioner! Oil will only attract dirt. The only time to use oil is if you are going to wash it out. You should wash your hair every 3rd day as to not add to it's dryness and allow your natural oil to come down through your hair. There are some great leave in conditioners from Aveda. It's leave in is the magic trick for many women here. If you can get it there, I don't know...

http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=43351&catid=10726

This product is the best I know from my friends who have really curly hair. It is a good and healthy product and you don't need a lot.

Have you thought of straightening your hair or how curly is it, Humlan?
I can give you more ideas if you give me more details on how curly and how it is cut!

dancer loves this stuff!