I am fortunate to have two wonderful DIL's. I don't see one however anymore as she is missing along with my son...

My first sons wife I see quite a bit. She has thanked me countless times for the way I raised my son and the kind of man and husband he's turned out to be.
I have several major rules as a MIL:

1.) Mind my own business, steer clear of their disagreements.

2.) Never just pop in, call first always to see what they are doing.

3.) Never say these words; "Oh, I would do it this way."

4.) Be her friend when she needs one and comes to you, otherwise be invisible and always treat her only as you want to be treated.

OKAY! Heres one for Dee's joking around advice...

Invite her to a movie, or somewhere private yet public and stare at her alot sighing, then whisper to her, NAME HERE, you are so beautiful, I am bi baby, wanna fool around?
Don't ask me how to get you out of this situation, I just know how to get you into it...LOL