Swimbo,
Don't you just wish you could put him in a closet and when he turns 25, let him come out again? If life were only that simple. I do agree with giving him other things to focus on. I think a lot of kids drink to excess because they are bored with their lives, and once it becomes a habit, watch out!

My prayers are also with you and my thoughts as well. My boys both drank when they were in school (high school) and it wasn't easy. I too sat up at night waiting on them. They really thought I didn't know...

We made it thru those years and they DID turn around; however I think losing several of their classmates to car wrecks and suscide was actually what opened their eyes. I hope it doesn't take anything this drastic for your son or his friends. My best to you and remember what Dotsie said. It ISN'T you, it is him finding his way.

Hugs,