JawJaw, you're just too funny. And it IS interesting to know everyone's perspective. The amazing thing is we're all like the seven blind men and the elephant. That's like our life paths, we all have such a different perspective and different ideas of how things can work better for us. My path won't be right for anyone else and theirs may not be right for me.

Lionspaw.....you're brave baring yourself ! But it's sort of freeing isn't it? If you can get out from under the guilt. That's a crusher. It's hard to make someone feel loved when they do't know how to love the person they see in the mirror.
(I was trying to figure out which word to use, "themselves" or "theirself"... couldn't figure it out so I wrote around it. Worked pretty good don't ya think?"