DJ and DK, thanks for sharing such intimacies from your lives. Often I believe we discover important realities simply by writing about them. I'm grateful this forum is a place where we can come (somewhat anonymously) and get feedback from other women that can help us sort things out.

And about this midlife time, I think it's one of the best times in our lives. We can look back with enough sense to discern what is best for us and then try to make choices about what to do next.