What a wonderful welcome Ladies! Thank you for making me feel so "at home". It's sort of nice to be somewhere anonymous....this is anonymous, right? Anyway... I found this site because I was looking to ....well, I guess I was looking to share my story...actually I was looking for an online way to submit a query "letter" for a magazine. I know this is a very edgy subject but if I've lived with this for all my marriage (25 years). It's my feeling (and I could be wrong) that there must be other people like me who have navigated around this problem to make a pretty full life. And so that's kind of my thrust.....I've managed, and it hasn't always been horrible, and I have managed to be able to relax some of the time and I have a fairly good life. Well I think it's fairly good...but it is odd sometimes how you (me) measure your (my) life against other people's and how you figure out where you are.