ArtLady, first of all I do admire your strenght to get through that visit with charm and diginity, YOU are a LOT stronger than you know just by accomplishing that with an even temper. I'm not advocating or advising bodily harm here, but when i get to a certain point of anger at my hubby or "life", I take one of my hub's beer cartons, toss it on the pond bank, chain up the dog, get my gun and turn that box into confetti! If you are inclined go to a target range and shoot a few rounds. It's an excellent outlet in a controled enviroment.