Actually HL, I did read that thread about your crisis. You were very brave in getting serious about it. I'm so glad to see that it worked for you and that it continues to do so! To be honest, when things get testy around here, I have ALWAYS felt that I was in "run" mode...ever since the wedding three years ago. I was terrible about this before the wedding....in one year I walked out 4 times! Once the committment came and the wedding date was set 2 months before it happened, I've held in there and never left. But I've wanted to leave a million times. Not sure how and like I've said, we seldom fight and he can be wonderful in between. This came up because the last two months we've been stressed out and it's been worse between us. Last weekend he told me I would probably be better off alone. Then he makes up with me. It goes on and on...