Anne,You are correct, in adding her husband, sheltering him, getting him a lawyer and telling the authorities that she would protect her daughter from further harm, she is libel. She could have come out with all she knew while alone at child protection and with him over night in jail. It would have put him in jail longer and resulted in charges being made by the D.A. She did not open up and she chose to protect him. This makes her culpable too and she will probably end up having charges.

I do not know what makes a mother sacrafice her children but my friends who are in the field of psychology have given me scenarios that make some sense. I can't accept that she would not choose her daughter's mind and bodies safety over her fear of her husband. Most women would stop that abuse and turn on their hubands at that point. Since I have know my husband all of my life and I know his sisters very well, it is like my own family and my own sister is sick and perverted. I can't forgive it.

The police tell us that they are having "domestic," calls about the family as of late so they are fighting. I hope this fighting results in her kicking him out of the home as all of the finances are HERS! She supports the entire family! She does have options! She could have refused him a lawyer, etc...

She breaks down on occasion and calls myself or her sister. When she does this, we find out about things like this I-phone having pornography on it. I hope she does this again so we can call the police AGAIN and get more charges! She goes back and forth on leaving him but there is more at stake now with the knowledge of the danger her daughters are in. (She has a 4 year old and a 1 year old daughter.)

The latest news is that she has talked her grown daughter, (age 17) into visiting her for the holidays by offering to buy her a car. This daughter is uncomfortable around her mother's husband and aware of the charges. We shall see what she can find out.

It's just such a tangled web we weave when we are like these people! I'm staying with it and hoping someone will start to unravel it!

Thank you,
dancer9