A person with Alzheimer's is not the person that was there before the disease. While a surviving spouse would or could struggle with this, it's so common. This man may, in fact, eventually find another interest and act as though he never met Kay. Or he may find a male friend who sparks his interest and find he just wants to sit with him. The many facets of this disease, especially when it has progressed this far, is innumerable. I'm glad she's okay with it. After all, it is not a sexual thing and it is not hidden. He is not doing anything to intentionally hurt her. He most likely doesn't even know or understand what his relationship was or is with Mrs. O'Connor. It's just another horribly sad downward spiral of this disease.