I would be as hurt as you, Hannelore. For the same reasons.

It seems that the barrier really is your son's non-preference for a hyphenated name, which if done in that way would make everyone happy. Has he stated why?

Simon Le Bon of Duran Duran took his wife, Yasmin's, name. I can't find any reference as to the manner she is addressed now. She could not possibly be called Mrs Le Bon. Perhaps your DIL should consider that. Whose Mrs would she be? She surely cannot be her own Mrs.
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