I don't but I do have a problem person in the family, doesn't everyone"

I just keeping repeating the mantra " you can't change anyone else" as this helps. And focus on the positive, your grand children.

Nurture your relationship with them as that is important. There is nothing you can do about your daughter-in-law. You never know, she may change one day.

I used to be referred to as a problem daughter in-law when I was married. I never did anything but my husband complained to her all the time about me and she believed him. Now we are best of friends and she knows me for who I really am, not my ex-husbands distorted version.

Kate