I went to a drug and alcohol counsellor today. She said to shut the door on my son for now.
She told me if he comes to the door to immediately call 911.
She said not to talk to him through the door, don't let him in, give him money, let him use the phone etc.
I am to say to him, I love you but I won't enable you.
When you are clean for six months and getting your life together we can talk about visits etc. but at the moment you have no son privileges as harsh as it may sound.

I told her I worry about him, feel bad for him as he is homeless etc. but she said try to think of him as an adult drug addict criminal trying to break into your house instead of seeing him as a child. At least for now.

I am on the list to join a co-dependant group. It's full so I am on the waiting list. I am sure not the only one going through this type of thing.

Kate