Turtle, tell your husband that I moved in with my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 20. We are still together more than 30 years later.

They sound old enough to make these kinds of decisions on their own. The only thing he'll accomplish by continuing this tense issue is to alienate his daughter and her boyfriend. My parents disowned me for a year, and we never did have a good relationship for years after. Even now, it's still a strain with my mom. (My dad passed away)

Hang in there, and no matter what your husband says and does, let your daughter know you still love her.

Kathy

PS: Don't try to keep everyone happy - you'll just get stressed out even more.