I don't see it as angry. I see it as give a little, get a little.

Supportive doesn't necessarily mean telling people what they want to hear or being a wuss. Nothing wrong with ladies speaking their minds, whatever that leads to. Let them say what they want. They're all big enough girls to deal with replies from strangers on the internet with a grain of salt. They will still all go on with their lives just exactly as they please.

I think you do not need to be a referee.